This advice is not just for congested traffic anymore. I’m sure that we have all been in gridlocked traffic where some fool is trying to cross three lanes into a turn lane just so they can u-turn into the Waffle House across the street. They inch out, trying to get past roaring diesel engines of semis with their Prius, knowing that the truck will crush their car into a little aluminium ball. It’s simple. Just be patient, you’ll get there. The same is said for when traffic is moving and the guy in the big truck or hit rod keeps switching lanes over and over. Then you get to the stoplight, and he’s right there beside you. How does that feel to do all of that maneuvering just to end up at the same place? Asking for a friend..
Staying in your lane also means minding your own business. In this day and age of social media, where everyone shares EVERYTHING, minding your business is harder than ever. We are inundated with a daily onslaught of our “friends” and their thoughts, no matter how insignificant they are. I really do t need to know that you stopped at the Amoco and bought a beef stick and Diet Dr. Pepper. Good for you. I am just as guilty, albeit with funny memes I find on social media. If I find it funny, I figure someone else will too. In today’s world, we could all use a little more laughter
I try to stay in my lane when it comes to neighbors. Robert Frost said it best when he said that good fences make good neighbors. There’s less to argue about when boundaries are clearly defined. Me personally, my favorite neighbor is the one that doesn’t cut his grass regularly. Because I don’t cut mine regularly. His yard is the gauge I use for mowing. I look at all the carefully manicured lawns in the neighborhood, with intricate designs and fancy gardens in the back. And our yard looks like the dumping grounds out by the landfill. And the neighbor’s yard matches ours. When he mows his, then I mow mine. Shout-out to the dude next door, for being lazy like me.
That also applies to being a good neighbor. I’m neighborly but not super friendly. I’m a waver when I’m walking my dog. But I don’t want to stop and analyze your yard and current grass growth. I’ll make quick conversation, but it’s hot out and I’m fat. Let’s wrap this up Jimmy so I don’t melt into a pile of gelatinous goo. We do have nosy neighbors that are always in our business. For example, I have a big truck with a camper shell on the back. At any one time, there could be anything back there. Old furniture that I am hauling to the dump/ReStore/open dumpster. Fishing/camping gear from that one time when we went fishing five years ago. A conspicuous mass wrapped in black trash bags that may or may not be a body. Mind your business, it’s just leaves in the bag. Or is it?
I see so many people that see their neighbors and compete to try and keep up with them. They see new appliances, new grill, new deck, new cars. So they try to keep up with the Joneses. We don’t keep up with the Joneses. We can’t even keep up with Tyrone Biggums from Chappelle show. Trying to keep up with your neighbors will just make you more miserable. Appreciate what you have, and work for what you want instead of what your neighbors have. Stay in your lane.
Then there’s the idea of the Facebook Couple. I know you know some people like this. You talk to either one of them, and they’re always arguing/miserable/mad at each other. But they post a pic and it’s both if them smiling like their ass is on fire. Facebook Couples are perfect, and they always post about how happy they are, with smiley photos to match. Real couples argue. If you’re in a relationship and you don’t argue, then you’re either a pushover or a victim. Real people don’t agree all the time. But arguing constantly is not healthy either. There has to be a happy medium. Just be a real couple. No couple is happy happy all the time. A real couple fights in private and doesn’t share it in public. Facebook Couples air out all their business on FB, with the gory details on both timelines for friends to comment on. If you argue with your bf/gf/spouse, it’s nobody’s business but the two of you.
And now, a little bit about depression. For those of us that suffer from depression, reach out to someone. You will be very surprised to find out that you are not alone in being depressed. I’m sure with the state of things today that we all go through some depression from time to time. Share your experience with a trusted friend, therapist, so.eone that can give you objective advice and won’t judge you. It will make a world of difference. That also applies to addiction treatment as well. I have had my own struggles with alcoholism, but a recent change in medication means a cold turkey approach to stopping drinking. I drank last Sunday, and came home after the bar and puked more food out than I’ve ever eaten. After puking out all of that and one spleen (it looked like a spleen) then the diarrhea started. I finally felt better after four days or so. So no more alcohol for me. The thing now is to find activities that don’t involve drinking. Here’s hoping that it works. Might have to seek counseling myself.
We have reached a milestone. I actually wrote a blog post with one continuous theme. Well, sort of. Just stay in your lane out there. People are telling you to get or not get the vaccine. Get it if you want, don’t if you don’t. FDA approval means nothing if you have your mind made up. I got the vaccine because my mother is older and I didn’t want her to get sick. But I respect anyone’s opinion to get or not get the vaccine. You do you, stay in your lane.